The problem is that they often forget that casual relationships require maintenance and effort, the same as a relationship leading towards commitment.Just because there are no strings attached doesn’t mean that it’s a free-for-all.If you only knew a few details about the company you were investing in, you'd probably decide not to invest in it. If you like the person and want to get to know them better, you have no choice but to proceed.The stakes feel so high because you can end up attaching pretty quickly to someone new, even though you don't know that person well enough to know if it's truly safe to trust him or her.
In other words, you're investing in a relationship based purely on faith, or your hope that this new person will be good for you.
While there’s a lot to be said for “You won’t know until you go out there and try”, if you don’t get into the habit of doing the mental equivalent of pulling over on the side of the road when you feel anxious and then asking you, “ is going on.
It’s natural to have some nerves in a new relationship, especially if like me, you’ve previously been jacked around while also jacking yourself around, but there’s anxiety that you sanity check with reality and then there’s anxiety due to evidence that you’re ignoring – how you feel, something about your needs, wishes and expectations not being met, or their actions or person, see if you can recall previous situations where you’ve felt or thought like this and what your anxiety in these situations was regarding. Now either say something nice or leave” and basically silence the hell out of it with evidence.
When you’re on the phone with women for 4 hours a day, you tend to hear a lot of recurring themes.
One of the most prominent themes is a “high-class” problem; in other words, if you’re having this issue, it means you’re doing very well with men.